Peaceful war, Folks who took picture of my foot, Routine


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How can you have a battle that is exciting but not bloody? Humor? Perhaps, but with intensity to create tension. Hmm, requires a lot of thought. Still thinking…


I got nothin’, so here’s silly folks.


GRIEF: 106 Ways to Deal with Grief,

The idea behind the statement…

26. Try a routine.

When your world is in turmoil and you can’t figure out what is happening or where you are, sometimes developing a routine can help settle you down by establishing something familiar and normal. I found a routine comforting, so initially I would do the same thing, the same way, at the same time. Sleep at a certain time, wake at a certain time and have supper at a certain time. I found this helped stop the world from spinning. It was a way for me to put one foot in front of the other and keep going. I knew what I was going to do next. It was predictable.

If you are a fly by the seat of your pants type person to start with then the added disruption of a death can put you completely out of kilter. When all is disorder, try order. It doesn’t mean you have to be tied down like that for a long time, just long enough to help you reestablish your equilibrium. Chaos can be very frightening and that is not what you need when you are trying to find your way in a sea of grief.

Many people find planning and execution of that plan in day to day items helps them manage on sort of rote memory so that they can keep going. It’s not a solution; it is a way to cope for a while, to give yourself a break.

Don’t worry if one day you can’t do it anymore. You can try something else, like no routine and no expectations.